Variety is the Spice of Life


Being unique isn't a flaw, it s a strength. 

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"Variety is the spice of life", according to poet William Cowper, and it’s a theme that describes our society very well when itcomes to almost everything in our lives. We get bored very quickly and are in constant need of something new and different.

 I remember being a kid and having a choice of maybe seven or eight channels to watch on TV, whereas now, there are literally hundreds of channels with hundreds of programs to keep us entertained.  Have you been to a paint store lately? Try simply asking for the color green and be prepared to elaborate on exactly which green you're looking for. The choices feel endless. So how is it that a society who loves and even craves variety in most aspects of its existence, can still be so narrow minded when it comes to physical appearance? Why do we embrace and celebrate diversity in "things", but we cannot accept it in people?

Let's face it; whenever a magazine or television program presents us with their idea of what men and women are supposed to look like, the standard images are generally muscular for men and skinny for women. These are the images that are jammed down our throats by the media year after year and they are the same images that drive so many of us to vilify our own amazing, healthy bodies. We have completely forgotten that our focus should be on appreciating all of the incredible things our bodies can DO, instead of judging them on how we think they should look.

My body has been several different sizes throughout the years and I have spent most of my life battling self-judgement and negative body image. I have lost too many years weighing my worth in numbers and hating every pound. It took me a long time to finally come to the realization that my value as a human being isn't, in any way, dependant on how I look or how much I weigh. I am no more or less deserving of love or respect from myself or other people regardless of what the scale says and I will no longer beat myself up with hate, but will instead LIFT myself up with love.  It's time to stop being critical of our bodies and start taking enormous pride in them because they are an extension of the outstanding people that we are.

My body tells my life story. Some parts have been smooth, some have been bumpier and there have been lots of curves along the way. My body isn't perfect, but it's perfect for me.

I think it's great to have a thousand channels on my television and 17 different shades of green to look at, but there is nothing more liberating than the minute we stop trying to be like everybody else and start enjoying the unique and fabulous people we already are.


Marci Warhaft-Nadler is a body image advocate, founder of the Fit vs Fiction workshops, blogger for The Huffington Post and author of “The Body Image Survival Guide for Parents: Helping Toddlers, Tweens and Teens Thrive”. After battling her own body image issues, Marci created her Fit vs Fiction program to tear down the dangerous myths related to beauty and fitness and empower kids with the self-esteem they need to grow up with the confidence they deserve. She is also the proud mother of two sons.