Self-Identity

Life Over Looks: A Journey Beyond the Mirror

Standing in front of the mirror, I sighed heavily. With slumped shoulders, I said, "You're disgusting" and then I started to cry, as if someone had just been incredibly cruel to me. Because someone had been incredibly cruel to me. We can be our own best ally or our own resident villain. Our relationship with ourselves shapes how we experience this world and for years, I waged a war on my body.

Diets. Don't. Work. Body Trust Does

I offer this post in honour of International No Diet Day

Diets. Don’t. Work. Even when we call them a “lifestyle change.” For so, so many reasons. But here’s one to consider. A diet provides you with rules about what you’re supposed to eat or not eat. Attempts to control your food intake through willpower and control require that you drown out the internal signals, leaving you much more vulnerable to external signals.

Dark Matters: My Journey with Shadeism

As a 25 year old woman of Trinidadian Indo-Caribbean decent, I have been subject to shadeism. Shadeism is discrimination that exists between the lighter-skinned and darker-skinned members of the same community; lighter skin tones are privileged over darker ones and viewed to be more beautiful. Growing up as a child I never heard messages that light skin was better than dark skin or that skin bleaching creams were the ultimate solution to my problematic dark skin. 

Fall In Love With YOU

This submission was originally posted on I AM THAT GIRL 

I am much better at listing my flaws than my strengths. I am sometimes too quick to dismiss compliments. When I look in the mirror, it’s instinctual to notice the “imperfections” first. And when it comes to life, some part of me feels like I could always be doing (just that much) better.

Every Road is Different - Keep Moving Forward

Type any address into a GPS device, and you will get at least three different routes via several modes of transportation. There are many ways to get to your final destination. Recovery can be the same. There are many different roads to recovery and just like travelling; there are many paths that can lead you to your goal of a life where your eating disorder (ED) is no longer in control.

The "Tough Love" Approach to Motivation

During the first week of February, I attended a bootcamp-style fitness class with Hayley, a friend and fellow graduate student in exercise psychology. As advocates for exercise and health promotion, Hayley and I try to exercise regularly and share similar goals: 1) to engage in physical activity that we enjoy, 2) to reap the benefits that exercise can have on our physical health and mental well-being and 3) to learn new skills and challenge ourselves to grow.

My Body Image Dream

Inspired by Dr, Martin Luther King Jr.'s powerful speech, Margarita's personal dream focuses on how we treat each other and how we treat ourselves. The original post can be found here.

I have a dream that our society will stop judging, shaming and bullying people because of their size, shape and weight.

I have a dream that we’ll focus on cultivating healthy habits instead of remaining chained to the numbers on our scales (or calipers or clothes).

Shatter the Mirror

Dedicated to my wee bee Zoe and to wee beauties of all ages—we are all beautiful, inside and out

As of February 15th 2015, I am officially seven years, post ED. Seven Years. I started out this post by trying to think of all the auspiciousness that is associated with the number seven. 

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