Coping

Endure, Persist, Prevail

I just saw what feels like the seven millionth television commercial I've seen in my 44 years on this planet, asking me if I want to know the secret to perfectly clear skin, shiny hair and a flawless body. I can’t turn on the TV, listen to the radio or flip through a magazine without having some beauty or diet company tell me they can fix my flaws and transform me into a new and approved version of myself and frankly, it's getting a little silly.

Stages of Change

You have probably heard of the stages of change, a model that identifies the different stages individuals cycle through as they attempt to modify a negative behaviour...The interesting thing about these stages is that they are not linear - a person may start at the second or third stage, or they may reach the final stage and find themselves starting back at one all over again. Eating disorders (ED) are a great example of this

 

RINGING IN RESOLUTIONS FOR THE NEW YEAR

Holidays are a time to be thankful for what you have and giving to others – but they are also a time of abundant food-oriented activities spent with friends and family. This time can be anxiety-provoking, triggering and distressing for someone recovering from an eating disorder. As the holidays come to a close, we are faced with the upcoming New Year. In our culture, New Years is idealized as a time for major change and reinvention. Every year, many of us make New Year’s resolutions – these resolutions invite us to think about our selves and how we’d like to be. Although this can be a time of healthy reflection - for some, it can also be a time when disordered thinking emerges. A time that triggers uncontrollable urges to make rigorous rules regarding eating, dieting and exercising. New Years resolutions can stir strict, critical and perfectionist thoughts and lure some off the track of recovery. 

Skydiving into Holiday Dinners

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There’s a fine line between skydiving and holiday dinners — at least for those of us who struggle with disordered eating.

Walking into your grandparent’s house feels less like a family reunion and more like climbing into a remarkably small airplane that you’ll jump out of momentarily. Seeing the food on the table is like glancing out of the window at twelve thousand feet. Grabbing a plate feels like free fall.

The Morning Process for Living a Life You Love

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We Are Ruled by Our Rituals or Habits

Through my experience as an eating disorder survivor and bulimia recovery coach, I’ve learned that our lives are made up of our daily rituals, or habits...To move past your eating disorder it’s important to replace those obsessive thought habits about food and disempowering behavior patterns with new habits that empower and uplift you.

The Choice - Navigating ED Recovery as a Person with Cerebral Palsy

Imagine someone blindfolded you to hear my conversations with my therapist over the last four years.  You would know I have anorexia nervosa. You would know that I am stable in recovery even though comments about my weight easily trigger me. To be fair, I am twice the size I was at my sickest. 

Eventually, you would learn that I have Cerebral Palsy and use a wheelchair.

Combat Bullying through Self-Compassion!

 

Pink Shirt Day, a day to raise awareness against bullying, began in 2007, when fifty teenagers in Nova Scotia showed up to class wearing a pink shirt in order to stand alongside a schoolmate who had been bullied for his choice in clothing.  Those students all rose up in unity, armed with only the symbolic power of a pink shirt, to silence the bullies who had tried to intimidate their classmate.

 

What is Normal Eating? Demystifying Dinner for Busy Families

It’s 9:30am at a school in York Region and I’ve just finished talking to a hundred eleven year olds about developing healthy relationships with their bodies. First shy, then clamoring for attention, a gaggle of girls queues up to talk about what’s normal. Their weight – is it what it’s supposed to be? Are they too tall? Do they look their age? It was easy enough for me to tell them that they were perfect the way they are. But how do busy parents address the normalcy question at home?

Welcome to the Family ED

Six years ago my sister stopped eating. It started after she began experimenting with dieting and seeing some results. First it was just cutting out all junk food, and then the portions of her food kept getting smaller and smaller until she was barely consuming anything in a day. And where was I? In the middle of the chaos that was going on in my home, feeling a mixture of a bunch of emotions that I wasn’t very proud of, and felt unable to express. You can almost think of it as getting a new member of the family. 

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